Lady of sorrows

MnG1991aBack in May 2006, I just couldn’t bear to pray the sorrowful mysteries on Tuesdays and Fridays during my daily, self-imposed, therapeutic walks on the beach so I asked God for a kinder, gentler way to pray the rosary.

Joyful mother

Then, ta-dah, I came across the Franciscan Crown.

In a small book I’d started reading that summer I discovered the seven joys of the Blessed Virgin Mary.  However, with every crown I beaded to share with others, my heart became more sensitive not only to Our Lady’s joys, but also to her sorrows.

Unexpected outcome

Relating to the Blessed Mother as a parent made her suffering very real, and somehow— I don’t know how or when exactly— I began to truly internalize the Child Jesus chaplet prayer.

Divine Infant Jesus, I adore your cross; and I accept all the crosses you will be pleased to send me.  Adorable Trinity, I offer you, for the glory of the holy name of God, all the adorations of the sacred heart of the holy Infant Jesus.

What an invitation to proactive engagement!

Accepting one’s crosses builds resilience and determination to forge ahead despite the obstacles, so now I bear my crosses with greater empathy toward Jesus and Mary.

Lady of sorrows

“No created mind, no created heart, no human force is capable of knowing how much love the heart of Mary had for our Lord” (St. Jerome).  The Blessed Mother would’ve done anything to help her beloved son had she been able to intervene, but Jesus had to fulfill God’s master plan for us.

We remember Jesus suffering in the desert, his self-denial, his dying on the cross for us, and his resurrection.  Above all, however, we remember that the way Jesus gave his all to and for us is the way God avails himself to us daily (Lanoux, 2009).

Similarly, Our Lady of Sorrows, mother extraordinaire, is ready, willing, and able to intercede on our behalf, so why not call on her?

There is no storm that can shipwreck the most sweet heart of Mary.  When you see the squall coming, if you seek safety in the firm refuge that is Mary, there will be no danger of your being hurled off course or going down
(St. Josemaría Escrivá).







From the Servites…  Hail!  Mary, full of sorrows, the crucified is with you; tearful are you among women, and tearful is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.  Holy Mary, mother of the crucified, give tears to us, crucifiers of your son, now, and at the hour of our death.  Amen.

Mary, mother of sorrows, you stood mournful underneath the cross of Jesus, your son.  With his dying breath he lovingly entrusted St. John and all believers into your care and named you as our blessed mother.   We, your children, are confident today that you are with us even in our times of deepest sorrow and pain.

In your own sorrow you trusted in the words of the angel, Gabriel: “He will save his people from their sins.”  We come before you now, sinful and sorrowful, sharing the intentions of our hearts….

Mary, mother of joys, you experienced the fullness of hope when your risen Son appeared to you in glory.  We, too, believe that Jesus hears and answers all our prayers until, at last, he brings us home with him where there will be no more sorrow, but only joy and peace.  Amen.

Mother of sorrows…  Father, as your son was raised on the cross his mother, Mary, stood by him sharing his suffering.  May your Church be united with Christ in his suffering and death and so come to share in his rising to new life where he lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God forever and ever.  Amen.

Our mother of sorrows, with strength from above you stood by the cross, sharing in the sufferings of Jesus; and, with tender care, you bore him in your arms, mourning and weeping.

We praise you for your faith, which accepted the life God planned for you.  We praise you for your hope, which trusted that God would do great things in you.  We praise you for your love in bearing with Jesus the sorrows of his passion.

Holy Mary may we follow your example and stand by all your children who need comfort and love.

Mother of God, stand by us in our trials and care for us in our many needs.  Pray for us now and at the hour of our death.  Amen.

O God, who willed that, when your son was lifted high on the cross, his mother should stand close by and share his suffering, grant that your Church, participating with the Virgin Mary in the passion of Christ, may merit a share in his resurrection.  Who lives and reigns in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever.  Amen.

Overcoming adversity…  Lord God, your own son was delivered into the hands of the wicked; yet he prayed for his persecutors and overcame hatred with the blood of the cross.  Protect us all from the violence of others, keep us safe from the weapons of hate, and restore to us tranquility and peace.  Amen.

Petition…  Dearest mother, Mary, mother of sorrows, behold me, your child, in prayer at your feet.  I have come to plead for this special favor through the intercession of your faithful servant, St. Peregrine….

Sorrowful mother, I beg you to present my petition to your divine son.  If you will pray for me, I cannot be refused.  I know, dearest Mother, that you want me to seek God’s will in all things.  Therefore, with childlike trust I abandon myself to God’s holy will concerning my request.  If what I ask (state petition) should not be granted, pray that I may receive that which will be of greater benefit to my soul.

Sweet mother of sorrows, I love you!  I put all my confidence in you because your prayers before God are most powerful.  For the greater glory of God and for the sake of Jesus through the intercession of St. Peregrine whom you have led to sainthood, hear and grant my prayer.  Amen.

To Our Lady, mother of mercy…  Blessed Virgin Mary, who can worthily repay you with praise and thanks for having rescued a fallen world by your generous consent!  Receive our gratitude, and by your prayers obtain the pardon of our sins.  Take our prayers into the sanctuary of heaven and enable them to make our peace with God.

Holy Mary, help the miserable, strengthen the discouraged, comfort the sorrowful, pray for your people, plead for the clergy, intercede for all women consecrated to God.  May all who venerate you feel now your help and protection.  Be ready to help us when we pray, and bring back to us the answers to our prayers.  Make it your continual concern to pray for the people of God, for you were blessed by God and were made worthy to bear the Redeemer of the world, who lives and reigns forever.   Amen.

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Prayer card on the right is from the Association of the Miraculous Medal, 1811 West Saint Joseph Street, Perryville, MO 63775-1598; on the left, from an unknown source.

September 15, 2012

Mary, you endured your son’s abandonment and agony, only to share… in his triumphant victory.  Be with us, too.  In our moment of need, lead us to victory in Christ.  Our Lady of Sorrows, pray for us (the Word among us, September 2012, p. 35).

“Mary triumphs with the sword not in her hand, but in her heart” (Gertrud von Le Fort).

August 15, 2013

Mary has left death behind her; she is totally clothed in life… taken up body and soul into God’s glory and, thus, placed in glory after overcoming death.  [She] says to us: Take heart [for] it is love that wins in the end! (Pope Benedict XVI).

October 11, 2013

Let us not imagine that we obscure the glory of the Son by the great praise we lavish on the Mother; for the more she is honored, the greater is the glory of her Son.  There can be no doubt that whatever we say in praise of the Mother gives equal praise to the Son (St. Bernard of Clairvaux).

May 30, 2014

All the sins of your life seem to be rising up against you.  Don’t give up hope!  On the contrary, call your holy mother Mary, with the faith and abandonment of a child.  She will bring peace to your soul (St. Josemaría Escrivá).

September 1, 2014

Queen of Martyrs, your heart suffered so much.  I beg you, by the merits of the tears you shed in these terrible and sorrowful times, to obtain for me and all the sinners of the world the grace of complete sincerity and repentance.  Amen.

September 15, 2014

May she, who followed her Son with faith all the way to Calvary, help us to walk behind him, carrying his cross with serenity and love….  May our Lady of Sorrows support, especially, those who are experiencing difficult situations (Pope Francis).

At the cross her station keeping, stood the mournful Mother weeping, close to her Son to the last.  Through her heart his sorrow sharing, all his bitter anguish bearing, now at length the sword has passed (Stabat Mater).

September 17, 2014

In a time of great sorrow, not knowing where to take refuge, fearing to be misled by the evil one, I remembered the heart of the Mother of Perpetual Help; and I placed myself in her care, like her child, like her property.  I begged her, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, to carry me as she carried Jesus when he was a child and to make me become not what I would like to become, but what she herself would like for the greatest glory of her Son, according to his will, according to what she read in his heart (Blessed Charles de Foucauld).

September 15, 2015

“Let us bind ourselves tightly to the sorrowful heart of our heavenly mother and reflect on its boundless grief and how precious is our soul” (St. Padre Pio).

April 8, 2017

O Mary, Mother of Sorrows, at the foot of the cross you became our mother.  I am a child of your sorrows, a child of Calvary.  Let my heart be united to the cross, to the passion of Jesus Christ; and teach me not to be afraid of my own trials and crosses (St. Bernadette Soubirous).

September 15, 2017

Sometimes darkness has its hour and there is nothing we can do to stop it.  Sometimes the blind, wounded forces of jealousy, bitterness, violence, and sin cannot, for that moment, be stopped.

But, like Mary under the cross, we are asked to “stand” under them not in passivity and weakness, but in strength, knowing that we can’t stop the crucifixion but we can help stop some of the hatred, anger, and bitterness that surround it.

And, in this way, we help take away the sins of the world and continue to bring Jesus’s saving death to the world (Ronald Rolheiser in The Passion and the Cross).


Our Lady of Guadalupe Church – Brownsville, TX

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5 Responses

  1. Es ist schön nach einiger Zeit wieder etwas von dir zu hören,uns geht es gut ist alles schön nur die Sonne könnte mal scheinen,wünsche dir eine schöne Woche sei herzlichst gegrüsst Klaus

    Translation: It’s nice to hear from you again after some time. The day’s going very well, only the sun isn’t shining. I wish you a wonderful week. Warm greetings, Klaus

  2. I hope Mama Mary takes my sorrows away. I do feel better already.

    • Dinie, you’re so cute!

      I’ve added you and your mom to both the petitions and the praise pages on our church blog, so let me know as soon as something special happens for y’all.

      Let’s walk in faith that better times are coming soon. And don’t forget! Miracles big and small happen all the time. We just need to be open to acknowledging them.


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